Deceived by the Outward Appearance 

Hey there! Have you ever met someone who seemed incredibly kind and trustworthy at first glance, only to discover later that their outward appearance didn’t match their true intentions or character? It’s a common experience that highlights the importance of looking beyond appearances and learning to discern what truly lies within a person’s heart. 
 

1 Samuel 16:7 (NIV)** reminds us, “The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” This verse underscores the reality that what we see on the surface—smiles, gestures, and words—can sometimes mask deeper motives or feelings that only God truly perceives. 


Trusting others goes beyond initial impressions. Here are some biblical principles and practical ways to discern someone’s true character: 

1. Fruit of the Spirit: **Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV)** teaches us about the fruit of the Spirit, which includes love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Observing these qualities in someone’s actions over time reveals the authenticity of their heart. 

2. Consistency in Behavior: **Matthew 7:16-20 (NIV)** encourages us to assess people by their fruits. Just as a good tree bears good fruit and a bad tree bears bad fruit, consistent behavior over time reveals the true nature of a person’s heart. 

3. Wisdom and Discernment: **Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)** advises, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Seeking wisdom from God through prayer and the study of His Word helps us discern between genuine sincerity and superficial appearances. 


Throughout Scripture, we encounter stories of individuals who were deceived by outward appearances: 

– Jacob and Esau: In Genesis 27, Jacob disguises himself as Esau to receive his father Isaac’s blessing, deceiving Isaac due to their differing appearances and voices. 

– Judas Iscariot: Despite being one of Jesus’ chosen disciples, Judas betrayed Him with a kiss (**Matthew 26:48-49**), using an outward gesture of affection to conceal his true betrayal. 

– Ananias and Sapphira: In Acts 5:1-11, this couple pretends to give the full proceeds from selling their property to the church but actually keeps part of the money. Their deceit leads to severe consequences. 

When facing situations where appearances may deceive: 

– Pray for Discernment: Ask God for wisdom and discernment to see beyond outward appearances (James 1:5). 

– Observe Actions Over Time: Genuine character reveals itself through consistent behavior and attitudes. 

– Seek Accountability: Engage with others who can provide unbiased perspectives and insights into people’s true motives. 

As we navigate relationships and interactions, let’s remember that what is on a person’s face or in their words may not always reflect their true heart. Let’s cultivate discernment through prayer, biblical wisdom, and community support, trusting God to reveal the authenticity of others’ intentions. By relying on His guidance, we can build genuine, trustworthy relationships rooted in Christ’s love and truth.