It’s natural for us to be drawn to people who are different from us, including non-Christians. Their lives can sometimes seem more exciting and less restrictive than ours. However, God has set up guidelines to protect us, much like parents do for their children. 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV) advises, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” While we can have friendships with non-believers, our closest relationships should align with our values and beliefs.

Friendships are worth the risk. Proverbs 17:17 (NIV) says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” True friends stand by us, offering love and support, especially in tough times. Even Jesus had to deal with betrayal from a close friend, Judas. Yet, He still valued and invested in His relationships.

While cultivating friendships, it’s crucial to avoid toxic relationships. Proverbs 13:20 (NIV) warns, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Friendships should build us up, not drag us down. If a relationship consistently brings more harm than good, it might be time to reevaluate its place in your life.

How Can We Build and Maintain Healthy Friendships?

Communication: Open and honest communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) advises, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Forgiveness: Conflicts will arise, but forgiveness is key. Colossians 3:13 (NIV) states, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

Support: Be there for your friends in good times and bad. Galatians 6:2 (NIV) encourages, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

Encouragement: Lift each other up. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV) says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

Friendships are a gift from God, designed to bring joy, support, and spiritual growth into our lives. While they come with risks, the rewards far outweigh the potential heartaches. Jesus Himself valued friendship and modeled it for us through His relationships.

As Christians, we should strive to cultivate friendships that reflect God’s love and grace. By choosing friends who encourage us in our faith, avoiding toxic relationships, and building healthy connections, we can experience the fullness of God’s design for friendship.

Remember, friend, you are not alone on this journey. God has placed people in your life to walk alongside you, support you, and help you grow. Cherish your friends, invest in your relationships, and trust that God will guide you in building connections that honor Him. Blessings to you as you navigate the beautiful and complex world of friendships!